Do you know how they say you should master the basics first? It also refers to sexual intercourse. You can’t progress to crazy positions until you’re comfortable with easier positions. Therefore, our clinical sexologist Rachel Sommer, Ph.D., has prepared a list of easy sex positions for beginners that will help you learn the fundamentals.
But first, here’s what you should keep in mind before you add the below sex positions to your sex life:
- The recipe for good sex is trust and knowing each other’s boundaries. It can help you build an emotional connection that is the foundation for long-term sexual satisfaction. [1] Discuss expectations and do’s and don’ts before starting.
- Don’t forget your sexual health. Make sure you discuss STI screening and contraception with your partner – condoms aren’t 100% safe.
- Not every position works for everyone, so don’t beat yourself up if you can’t get it straight away. A lot depends on your anatomy.
Now let’s get straight to the point.
Pro Tip: All sexual positions for beginners come with pictures and illustrations, so it’s easy to try them yourself in the bedroom.
1. Missionary
No surprise here. The classic missionary style position might be considered ‘vanilla,’ but there’s nothing wrong with enjoying your partner’s body without fancy toys or outfits. When you start your sex journey, you’re just beginning to explore what you like and dislike in bed, so taking things slow is essential.
This easy sex position lets you savor every sensation and teach you how to communicate with your partner. Please talk about your boundaries beforehand but make sure you also pay attention to their facial expressions.
In addition, since it’s a face-to-face position, you can see any signs of discomfort on their faces plus witness their climax, beating any kind of crazy position that doesn’t have this level of intimacy.
In missionary, your partner can either keep eye contact or lean forward and steal a passionate kiss. From here, you can progress to missionary variations: pillow under your pelvis, legs on your partner’s shoulders, legs around their hips – let your imagination run free!
How To Do It
- Lie on your back with your legs spread.
- Your partner positions himself over you.
- You can wrap your legs around his waist for deeper penetration.
2. Cowgirl
Being new to sex doesn’t just mean you get to learn more about your body but also means you gradually start building your confidence. Cowgirl can help with that. Since you’re on top, your partner has a view of both your body and all the action.
It might make you feel self-conscious at first, but you’ll be able to feel empowered with time. There’s nothing sexier than being in charge, allowing you to control the speed and intensity of the penetration. Play with different angles and depths to find the combination you most enjoy.
How To Do It
- The penis owner lies on his back.
- The vagina owner straddles them and places their hand on the chest for better balance.
- You can also lean forward to change the angle of the penetration. You can also try leaning back.
3. Spooning
Spooning is one of the easiest sex positions that work best for newbie couples. If you think about it, you already cuddle in the same position so getting your genitals (or strap-on) involved isn’t a giant leap.
The reason it’s one of the best basic sex positions for beginners is because having your partner’s arms around will put you at ease. Everyone knows the first time is stressful, but no one talks about the following few times – becoming comfortable with new sensations takes time, so please don’t rush anything!
Additionally, it’s one of the most intimate sex positions. Your partner can stroke your hair or kiss your neck to help you feel more comfortable. Plus, he has access to all your erogenous zones, teaching him to focus on your pleasure.
Pro Tip: Spooning is also the best way to introduce a sex toy into the play. Since your partner can’t see your face and watch how you touch yourself, it will give you more confidence to try different types of stimulation.
How To Do It
- Lie on your sides facing the same direction, just like in the regular spooning position.
- The receiving partner lifts her top leg.
- The giving partner slides into the position and wraps his arms around his partner.
- The vulva owner can keep their top leg up or squeeze legs together to allow their partner to go deeper.
4. Doggy Style
Doggy is one of the most popular search terms on porn sites. For some, it’s exciting, while for others, it’s intimidating. So why does it work so well for beginners?
Well, the answer is simple. It’s effortless to get into, and all your partner has to do is turn you around and slide inside. And because it’s a rear-entry position, it allows you to experience G-spot stimulation and discover new sensations.
The only downside is that your partner won’t be able to spot the signs of discomfort if you’re facing away. Make sure you talk about your concerns and boundaries before giving it a go.
Pro Tip: When you want to take this to the next level, try having sex in front of the mirror. It might sound intimidating at first, but it’s extremely hot!
How To Do It
- Kneel on the edge of the bed.
- Your partner then stands behind you and slides inside.
- You can arch your back for deeper penetration.
- In addition, you have room to stimulate your clit.
5. Lying Doggy (Prone)
Once you’ve mastered the doggy, it’s time to progress to lying doggy. It’s a full-body position with plenty of skin-to-skin contact, allowing you to feel emotionally connected to your partner even though you can’t keep eye contact. Plus, the positioning means he can whisper words of affirmation to your ear. In between neck kisses, of course!
The lying doggy is also one of the best first-time positions for those who enjoy deep thrusting. In this position, your partner can go all the way inside of you and help you reach a G-spot orgasm. Unfortunately, it leaves no space for clitoral stimulation, but the sexual journey is not always about the orgasm, is it?
Pro Tip: You’ve already mastered lying doggy and want to mix things up? Try butt play. Have your partner finger you or use toys to stimulate your anus for maximum pleasure.
How To Do It
- Lie on your stomach with your legs straight and slightly spread.
- The top partner positions himself in between your thighs and slides inside.
- You can squeeze your knees together for a deeper thrust.
6. Table Top
Are you feeling adventurous, but you’re still new to sex? The tabletop is a good option if you want to spice things up but still play it safe. Here’s why it’s a fantastic position:
- This basic sex position follows the same rules as the missionary, so that you won’t have problems getting into it.
- The only difference is you have to use a table, an excuse to take things from the bedroom to the living room. Imagine having friends over and replaying the sexy time in your head. Yummy!
- It also allows you to explore your likes and dislikes. Make it more intimate – have your partner play with your breasts and steal a passionate kiss here and there – or wild – you can try choking and hair-pulling.
How To Do It
- The receiving partner sits or lies on the table with legs spread.
- The penetrating partner stands between your legs and places his hands on your hips.
7. 69
Many people rely on porn to prepare for their first time and learn how to satisfy their partner. Unfortunately, sex in porn movies doesn’t quite reflect reality. Even worse, it usually values men’s pleasure over women’s. That’s why you should try the 69 before you take turns.
The 69 shows you how exciting and rewarding it is to please your partner at the same time as they please you. Plus, it’s excellent foreplay that can prepare you for super deep penetration.
As you become more comfortable, you should try adding more stimulation. Yes, I’m talking about sex toys. A good adult toy will help you explore new sensations and bring you to an intense orgasm. Try a rabbit vibrator or a vibrating dildo.
How To Do It
- The giving partner lies on their back.
- Position yourself over your partner’s body while facing the opposite direction.
- Please stay in the kneeling position to avoid putting weight on the penis haver.
