Are you looking for the best missionary sex positions for more variety in your sex life? Then this guide from clinical sexologist Rachel Sommer, Ph.D., will help!
Nowadays, it’s all about kink and going for crazier and crazier sex positions. The good ol’ missionary is almost like a dirty word and not in a sexy way. But I’m here to tell you a secret – it’s not as dull as it sounds, and I’ve prepared a list of the best missionary variations to prove that.
Fun Fact: Missionary is women’s second favorite sex position. Do women care more about intimacy (missionary is a face-to-face position after all), or is it the unique stimulation that wins them over?
Let’s get up close and personal.
Pro Tip: All missionary sexual positions come with pictures and illustrations, so it’s easy to try them yourself in the bedroom.
1. Traditional Missionary
Nothing screams boring like the standard missionary. At least that’s what society wants you to think. However, if your sex life is stale, missionary isn’t likely to be the culprit. A lack of imagination is more likely the case. Don’t believe me? Here’s why this position should make the top of your list:
- Missionary allows for slow hip movement and eye contact, making it one of the best intimate sex positions. But I’m not saying missionary can’t be rough. You can easily add choking to the equation.
- Seeing your partner’s reactions is hot, period. For the same reason, you can easily communicate and learn what turns each other on.
- You’re in the perfect proximity for dirty talk or even whispering words of affirmation. Who doesn’t like hearing they’re doing a good job?
- If you incorporate the CAT technique, it’s also the best orgasmic position, as you can see in our roundup article.
How To Do It
- Lie on your back with your legs apart.
- Your partner climbs on top and slides into the position.
2. Cross Booty
At first glance, this position doesn’t seem appealing at all. But the advantage is how it feels. Cross booty allows your partner to move his penis at an angle that results in an unusual but powerful type of stimulation.
Plus, there’s a bonus. In this sex position, all you have to do is relax and let your partner do the work. You can reward him with back rubs and butt squeezes. And if your partner likes anal sex, don’t forget to stimulate his anus. While the positioning makes it hard to maintain eye contact, nothing says intimacy more than anal play.
Pro Tip: You can also consider using a butt plug to enjoy double anal penetration.
How To Do It
- The vagina owner lies on the bed with legs slightly apart.
- The penetrating partner enters them while lying sideways so that their limbs form an X.
- To make things easier, the penis owner can enter them in a classic missionary position and then turn sideways.
3. Table Top
While Tabletop is not the most comfortable missionary sex position (unless you think ahead and cover the table with something soft), roleplay is key. Think of a scenario that goes well with penetrative sex on the table and turn your fantasies into reality. No more lazy tired-tonight missionary. It’s a hot having-an-affair-with-my-boss kink night!
Another benefit of the tabletop position is your pelvis is slightly elevated, making it easy for your partner to reach your G spot. You can also rub your clitoris while he’s riding you to maximize the pleasure. You can find other easy sexual positions here.
Pro Tip: Incorporate toys into the play (think a rabbit vibrator or gag ball).
Pro Tip 2: Consider putting a pillow under your head to make it more comfortable.
How To Do It
- Lie on the table with your legs apart.
- Your partner stands between your legs and slides into the position. He can rest one arm on the table and put the other one on your hips.
4. Pretzel
Despite what the name might suggest, this missionary pose is far from a complicated yoga pose. And while it’s a face-to-face position, it doesn’t offer as much skin-to-skin contact as other missionary variations. However, if you enjoy teasing your partner as much as I do, it can be an advantage!
In addition, you can control your partner’s hip movement by squeezing your thighs. You can also put your hand on his chest so he can’t lean over for a kiss. Enjoy slow stimulation and watch him become more and more impatient.
How To Do It
- The bottom partner is lying on their side and rests on their elbow.
- She lifts her leg while the penetrating partner kneels with one of his partner’s legs between his knees.
- The receiving partner hooks the raised leg on her partner’s hip.
5. Missionary With Pillow
This missionary alternative is perfect for trying the coital alignment technique. If you haven’t heard of it, the aim is clitoral stimulation. Both partners are in the standard position, except the penetrating partner sits higher so their shaft can rub against the woman’s clitoris.
The coital alignment technique allows both clitoral and vaginal orgasm, increasing sexual compatibility between the partners. It might be just what you need for more satisfying intercourse.
How To Do It
- One partner lies on her back and slides a pillow under her pelvis.
- The top partner can then climb on top.
6. Missionary With Legs On Shoulder (Seashell)
Missionary with legs on shoulders is my favorite variation as it allows for extra-deep penetration, and it’s easy to control the depth of penetration. Your partner is not only deep inside of you, but you can also hear how his breathing quickens with every move. Plus, you can see each other’s faces, making it easier to orgasm simultaneously. Nothing hotter than that.
To spice things up more, don’t forget to add oral sex to the foreplay. Have your partner go down on you and make sure he gives enough attention to your clitoris. He can then move over your face and have the favor returned.
How To Do It
- Get on your back and have your partner kneel between your legs.
- Put your legs on his shoulders and let him slide into the position.
7. Missionary With Legs On Chest
A missionary might not guarantee the deepest thrusting, but it helps you hit all the right spots. One trick is to put your legs on your partner’s chest, and the angle makes it easy to access your G-spot and provides an intense orgasm.
Can’t cum without a vibrator? No problem. You can easily fit your favorite toy between you and your partner and enjoy being in control of your pleasure. You can also invest in a couples vibrator that stimulates both your clitoris and his penis (or strap-on) at the same time. Sharing is caring.
How To Do It
- The receiving partner is on her back, just like the standard missionary position.
- She puts her legs on her partner’s chest and lets him slide into the position.
8. The Spork
This cute name comes from a combination of a spooning and missionary position. It gives you proximity, intimacy, eye contact, and deeper penetration. Because of these benefits, it’s excellent for both couples and friends with benefits who like being affectionate.
Since it favors slow thrusting, it’s a place to start if you want to try tantric sex positions. Also known as sexual yoga (sexual yoga poses here), it refers to sex that’s slow and deliberate. The key to Tantric sex is to enjoy being present and learning about your partner’s body rather than climaxing.
Sure, orgasms are incredible, but if you combine heightened sensations and body exploration, you’ll have a recipe for sex from another level. Keep eye contact and enjoy the sexual journey.
How To Do It
- Lie on your back.
- Your partner then positions himself between your legs at 90 degrees, basically in a spooning position.
